It’s so easy to get wrapped up in shopping and preparing for Santa/the holiday season especially if you have children. We often talk about giving and usually are referring to giving to complete strangers…which is a beautiful thing! This post, however, is about giving in your inner circle.
First, if you know of anyone who has recently suffered a loss, please try to reach out to them. This can be a death or divorce. Loss can be described in so many ways. You may not be able to heal a broken heart but just a kind word could make a big difference.
Second, some people may have very little family or friends. Please invite them over for your big holiday dinner. Even if they say they want to be alone, insist that they stop in even for an hour. It’s just little things like this that may put a smile on someone’s face.
Third, your season of blessings may be so awesome that you want to shout it to the world! Amen! But please remember that if you just had a baby, having a discussion about your joy with a friend that suffered a miscarriage may not be the thing to do. Be sensitive to your inner circle! People who are going through hurt can be happy for you and still feel their loss deeply. It’s not an “either or” test. Be kind!
Fourth, whatever you do…please do not attempt to give your hurting loved ones advice during your season of celebration and their season of loss. No one knows what it takes to make another human being happy. They have to figure it out for themselves. Just be a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on. So suggesting that a newly divorced person should start dating may not be the way to go. People have to do things in their time. I know you think you are helping but suggestions like these come off hurtful. It’s like saying…”hey I don’t think you are doing enough to be happy.“
And lastly, please remember that everyone will have a season of suffering, including you. I’m sure you would want love, kindness, and support during such a difficult time. Thus, give what you would pray to receive in a season of depression, sickness, death, job loss, and over all transition in a time of loss. Never forget that your season of celebration has the ability to uplift others. Use your blessings wisely. ~KJM on Flashback Friday. This time of year is the hardest for me for many reasons…