I hate that I’ve to write this blog but truth be told it’s a long time coming. Earlier this week, Julio called me and told me off in the most malicious way. I’ve known him for 19 years but we haven’t seriously dated since 2007! He was upset because I’m dating Elijah and I’m happy! Praise Jesus🙌🏽 No matter what Elijah and I go through…from the jump he’s been different from the rest. He’s on his grown man status and I love it (though it’s taken some getting use to after only dealing with boys)! After thinking about our conversation and speaking with people who know me well…I’ve now blocked Julio. He is no longer welcomed to call nor text me. There’s a new sheriff in town and Julio…it just ain’t you! Julio is angry that for years he hit the pause button on me to find something better and never did! I stopped truly loving him almost 10 years ago and never looked back. Once I fell for the ex factor, Julio’s love coffin was officially sealed. I think because I’ve finally gotten rid of the ex factor, Julio thought he could come back. But Julio for real though…do you think you are that important in my life that I would ever consider being with you again?! Fuck NO! We dated for 10 years (on and off again) where I suffered a lot of emotional abuse from you. There is no way I would want such a man to be my husband and the father of my children. Since you can’t get past your own fucking ego, I’m putting it all in writing. I’m letting the world know you ain’t shit and I’m no longer trying to be a cordial friend. You fell and bumped your head on Tuesday night and that will be the last time I let you disrespect me! Before I go though, I want to warn any woman who will date you in the future (since you are now bitterly single). Here are the 10 Things I want Julio’s future ex girlfriend to know about him:
10. JULIO IS SHORT IN SO MANY WAYS! I’m 5’7 and I doubt Julio is even 5’3. He hates his height and his body so if you are taller than him and love your body, you are going to pay! He will always have something nasty to say to you…even while dating him. Julio has a long list of insecurities and he will spend what feels like a lifetime (19 years and I can’t fucking get rid of him) bringing you down!
9. JULIO IS SELFISH IN BED! This man has such a huge ego for such a small person. Yes he was my first and I hate that I’ve to expose him like this but in our over 10 years of sexual history, he’s never made me climax. I mean…he was never even close! So if you like not cuming and forever only satisfying his needs….Julio is the midget for you!
8. JULIO IS A MAMA’S BOY! Mama still warms up his spoiled rotten breast milk and it shows. This is one of the main reasons why he can’t keep a good woman. No one is like his mama…and if you have any fucking sense…you don’t want to be. This man thinks he is a god and that he is entitled to everything he never worked for.
7. LONG AFTER YOU BREAKUP THIS SICK SON OF A BITCH WILL STILL THINK HE IS ENTITLED TO YOUR HEART AND YOUR BODY! Julio, when standing completely straight does not even come up to where my heart is. So why on God’s green earth does he still think I should love him? I’ve known him for 19 years and he’s been an asshole for 18 of those years! Who the fuck worships an asshole just because he’s been around a long time?! Well cockroaches are hard to get rid of too…and ain’t nobody throwing a party for them! Need I remind you, I was hugely sexually dissatisfied with Julio’s dick game so why again should he be memorable?! Fuck out of here!
6. JULIO WILL PRETEND TO BE YOUR FRIEND LONG AFTER THE BREAKUP ONLY TO TRY TO SABOTAGE EVERY RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE AFTER HIM! I don’t know if I’m the only ex he calls up all the damn time and fucks with…but there is a great chance he will do it to you too! If you are wondering why I’ve kept in touch with him all these years…it’s because after I fell out of love for him…I treated Julio like a long distance cousin. If he were to get married tomorrow, I would feel nothing. As a matter of fact, that pisses him off! I’ve encouraged him to get married and work out every relationship he’s been in since we have been pseudo friends. I allowed him to check in on me once or twice a year because who has a problem with their long distance cousin doing that?!
5. JULIO WILL NEVER SUPPORT YOU ON ANYTHING! I’ve always been crazy intelligent and gone to amazing schools. This has been an issue for Julio from the jump. He really needs a bitch that don’t know how to read and write! Because of my intelligence, degrees, and ambitions, Julio never treated me well. He has always felt and acted inferior to me. If you think I’m making that up….over the years he has expressed these feelings but continuously asking me if I think he is smart?! While Julio is on his second masters degree, and I’ve attained the highest degree I can in my field, I’ve always been happy for him. Yet he has never been happy for me. News flash Julio…all the degrees in the world won’t change that you are an insecure asshole! Might want to get that printed on your second masters degree! 🙌🏽
4. JULIO WILL TREAT YOU LIKE SHIT! While I’ve never known him to be a cheater (it’s hard for short men to have game), he will verbally and emotionally bring you down in and out of your relationship. Julio will put everyone in front of you and make you feel like you are not worthy! But I’m here to tell you…you are worthy! Julio’s biggest issue is with himself. You deserve so much more! Don’t allow him to put you down and then accuse you of having low self esteem! Tell Julio to fuck off!🖕🏾
3. JULIO WILL CALL YOU A SLUT! If you aren’t sleeping with him, Julio will accuse you of being a whore. I have a small amount of sex partners (not sure why this is even a concern for Julio as he hasn’t seen the fuzz on my kitty kat since January 2010…pre ex factor) yet at the end of our Tuesday night conversation he intelligently called me a low self esteem nymphomaniac slut! He was so mad that I’m intimate with Elijah and wondered how I could choose Elijah over him. Dude, we haven’t seriously dated since 2007. While there are a long list of wonderful attributes about Elijah, I’m going to stoop down to Julio’s level and hit him with only one…Elijah’s dick action alone can blow every memory of you out my mind! 🙌🏽 Long live King Big Dick! 🙌🏽
2. JULIO WILL NEVER COMPLETELY GO AWAY UNLESS YOU DRAW A LINE! This cockroach will always creep up in the corner of your kitchen no matter how many times you call the exterminator. You have to completely cut him off and draw a solid line in order to find your own happiness! Julio is bitter and will always want you to be bitter. I tried and tried to find some good in him but failed. Girl when it’s your turn…learn from me. Run! Don’t allow him to call and befriend you!
1. JULIO IS AN EX FOR A REASON! After he hung up on me Tuesday night (yes the motherfucker did), I realized I was right to never consider marrying him nor having his children. Julio is the type of man I regret ever meeting. All the years I was with him, I felt alone and unsupported. There was never two solid days I could count on him as a lover nor friend in 19 years! Even when I got into professional school, how he congratulated me was by breaking up with me. This is the boy I met when I was 15 and he was 16. He’s still that boy today at 35! I wish I could take back my virginity and give him back his! Julio, I am God’s child! I am only HIS! If you are not God nor Papa Michaels, I was never your property. You are an ex for a reason and you have lived out your season! Please do not keep in touch✌🏾️ ~KJM on Flashback Friday saying to all the women out there….never let a boy press the pause button on you…thinking he can come back whenever he feels like. Move forward and love with all your heart. Never let the trash continue to stink up your home!