Most of you have heard of a wishing well….a place where you drop a coin and make a wish. But how many of you have heard of the Missing Well? This is the place where our lost loves go. Sound familiar? It’s the place where our deepest desires are joined with our deepest hurts. The place where a yearning for what could have been occurs. You remember it now? Is it all coming back to you? The times you yearned for that friendship or that relationship to stay in it’s most perfect form. The times your heart hoped and prayed that even in its last hour…true love could survive. That time where you looked out your window hoping your great love would appear once again and speak of things only you two knew. That time…that time…that time that has now abruptly ended. What separates the wishing well from the missing well? The death of hope…hope of what could have been had the universe been more kind. You see…when most stand before a wishing well they are filled with hope that anything is possible. But when one stands at the foot of a missing well…typically they are filled with regrets. The pain of losing a great love is just too much to bare. We miss them. We still love them. But just because our hearts miss them does not mean they belong in our present or our future. You see the wishing well is a forward looking gift while the missing well is an omen of the past. Great loves can cause great pain and not every great pain is worth revisiting. It’s okay to miss them as we move forward…for LOVED has no room in the house of new LOVE. ~KJM feeling nostalgic on Charm School Monday.